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The Security Blanket of Fear

November 14, 2019

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I love using analogies to make my points, and this is one that came to my mind during a long road trip last week. The Security Blanket. Do any of us know what the definition of a Security Blanket is?? I decided to look it up, and here is what I found:

“A comfort object, transitional object, or security blanket is an item used to provide psychological comfort, especially in unusual or unique situations, or at bedtime for children.”

An object used to provide psychological comfort. Very interesting. Have you ever sat on a couch and put on that comfy blanket to keep you warm and snug? I know I have, and it does one curious thing in addition to keeping you warm and snug; it keeps you trapped. You can’t get up, move your arms, reach for the remote, or the phone while you are wrapped up under that blanket.

Let’s take this into the context of our lives. We will stay in bad jobs, bad relationships, bad environments, and lead less than fulfilling lives to stay trapped under our security blankets of fear. Fear of loss of income, loss of a partner, loss of a friend, moving to a new, unknown place, name your fear. It’s easy to stay where we are and “ride it out” because we know and are familiar with where we are. It’s also extremely limiting and keeps you from living a truly fulfilling life.

To live a fulfilling and exciting life, we need to shed these blankets of fear and reach for the best life we can have. Look, we get one shot at life, and we live in a time where we have opportunities that didn’t exist 200 years ago. We can move, change, adapt, and improvise like no other time in our history. Take advantage of that to seize control of your life and live it to the fullest.

We tend to look at people who have achieved this and admire them from afar. We will say, “if only I were that lucky” or “that will never happen to me.” We think of life as a lotto ticket that we never won. NO! Successful people shed their security blankets and were willing to take risks to achieve their goals and passions. Many of them were rejected time and time again but keep pursuing their passion until they heard that first yes.

I am not talking about becoming a millionaire or living a lavish lifestyle (hey, if that’s your passion then go for it). I am talking about waking up every day loving what you do and being proud of what you do. It’s not easy to get there and you will encounter many obstacles and will have tough times to overcome in the process, but, if you do shed that security blanket of fear, life will never be dull. I will leave you with one of my favorite Teddy Roosevelt quotes:

“Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.”

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